H is going through that phase again where he is such a daddy’s boy. He tantrums and is so naughty for me but then is a sweet little angel for McD. I caught them dancing in the kitchen this afternoon, tried to join in and H just screamed “no dancing mummy” at me and continued to dance with McD. Shortly after this he had one of his huge tantrums. He has this stuffed flower toy and was hitting Susie (the 4parts pooch) and I with it. I asked him several times to stop and when he didn’t I took it off him and put it in the kitchen. This resulted in a full scale melt down.
When he has these full scale melt downs he gets so frustrated. It’s like he doesn’t know how to communicate his feelings to me and so he gets so worked up he lashes out. He slaps me around the face with both of his hands, like he’s clapping them together only my face is in the middle. This is not something we condone, we do not slap on the face. In fact we rarely smack at all (yes we do smack his bottom sometimes), preferring to use encouragement and distraction rather than punishment. When he slaps me I sit him on the floor and ignore him. He climbs back up and does the same again. We continued to do this until it took McD intervening to calm him down. McD got to cuddle him out of his tantrum.
Now this was just too much for me, I had just endured ten minutes of tantrum and slaps from my child only to have him cuddling daddy straight after. I cried. It was one of those god awful, lip trembling cries. Mummy was sad. As if I didn’t already feel a bit pants about things this week I now have to deal with my boy turning into Damien around me.
So I went into a funk, McD tried to make me feel better and says it’s just a phase but he doesn’t get it. This is the child that I grew in my body and it hurts when he rejects me and runs to daddy.
I get that he’s with me all day and he misses his daddy when he goes to work. I get that I’m the disciplinarian. But for one day I’d like to have all the nice things, the cuddles and the lovely boy while McD tackles Damien and his slapping!
I wrote this last Wednesday. On Friday I had my first day at college and left H with my mum for the day. I am so happy to say that when I got to my mums on Friday afternoon H had definitely missed me. He wouldnt stop cuddling me and I think I managed to steal at least 20 kisses <3
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