This is going to be my second post in the zelda gate story and I’m really just answering some of the many many messages I have received about this situation. One person asked why I have invested so much time into this topic, well if you look back over my blog you will see that I always invest my time and energy if I think a person or an animal are at risk. Here there are two kids at risk, I think their well being is worth my time.
Firstly I’m going to kick off by publishing the message Ben Hornecker (Zelda and Coyotes ‘dad’) sent to my blog:
What is it that happened to you when you were young that what we do or Geneva does that makes you hurt that you need to constantly attack us. You do not have to suffer through whatever pain you are going through. You can live a very happy unhateful life. Did you see the things that people say about what you do? how can you be so ignorant to reasonable opinions and comments. What is it about us that you feel the need to follow us religiously. Did I or Genvea hurt you in some way on a personal level? What you do to us simply isn’t considered normal behaviour by a human being. If you want us dead just say so and move on but there is something eating at you and I would be happy to talk about in 100% just you and me. (I know you do not trust me, but I am the type of person who can keep a secret even if is the most horrible thing in the world that I ever heard AND it came from you, I promise you with my life I will never tell another soul) Please if there is healing you need please give me a chance to help make a solution here and stop you from constantly seeing problems. It must take so much out of you. Please play with your child don’t just be there he wants you to play with him. get on the ground and be his best friend. you say you love your child but you simply are confusing well taken care of and loved. I was a rich kid, I was taken care of incredibly. But that pic of your boy in the sand pit you got him, all I could see was me looking for my mom to just play with me instead of worrying about the world. Laura your son wants more from you, I see it in his precious eyes, please its time, either tell me the core issues with us or please stop and be the best mom your boy has been wanting for a while.
I give you hugs and kisses if I could because if you met me face to face and had a chance for me to shine kindness your way you would change your attitude towards me and more importantly my wife. I hope you do realize that H&W, CPS, DHS, police, and many government officials have looked at my page and have seen you and what you have done. I would tread very very lightly for a while. Just trying to let you know that you may want to get some sleep if you can.
as much love as I can give you-
Ben
P.S. I know you would never post this on your page you are just too much fear and that’s ok, I forgive you.
Hi Ben,
Seeing as though you haven’t responded to my message inviting you to chat I will chat to you here.
I’m so sorry to disappoint you but I suffered no childhood trauma like you seem to think. If you took the time to read some of my blog you would understand that I had a very happy and loving childhood. I grew up with my parents and five brothers and we had love in abundance. There is no pain caused by some kind of trauma that you need to heal. The fact that several times now you have insisted that I have suffered some kind of childhood trauma makes me think that this has happened to you. What happened to you that you feel the need to look for problems in other people’s lives before fixing your own?
Neither you or Geneva hurt me on a personal level and I certainly don’t wish you dead, I have never even hinted along those lines in any of my comments so I am baffled as to why you would come out with such a statement. Is it because you are at such a low point of your life that you have actually wished yourself dead? If so I would suggest talking to your doctor, doing something like that now would only further damage those two little children and also your other children from previous relationships. What you both have done that has offended me, and many others, so greatly is smoke an illegal drug around your children, and in genevas case, whilst pregnant with your child. You have knowingly broken the law and put your children at risk. And then when you were caught, which at the end of the day was inevitable in your situation, rather than hold your hands up and admit your mistake (and I promise you I would have had a lot more respect for you had you done this) you go round and round in circles. You blame everything other than yourself. You try to hide behind extreme morning sickness, the flu, your wife’s new found energy. Please just admit you have a drug addiction!
You went onto say that my son wants more from me, that my son wants me to be his best friend and you can see it in his precious eyes. Well, not that I need to explain my parenting choices with anybody, I shall advise you that my son has my entire love and attention. Have a read through my blog, see how much I absolutely adore my son, he is my world, my whole life revolves around his very being. EVERY choice that I make I have him in mind when making it. I would NEVER smoke an illegal drug in his presence. I don’t even drink more than one drink around him. I don’t need drugs and alcohol to wind down, I wind down reading stories with my boy. We listen to the braveheart soundtrack and we sing keane, we jump on the bed, we splash in the bath, we take long relaxing walks. WE DON’T DO DRUGS. And if you’re not entirely convinced then check out these pictures and afterwards tell me if you think this is an unloved and unhappy boy:
You also told me that the H&W, CPS, DHS and the police have been watching me and I should tread very carefully. I think if anybody was to look through your page they would only be interested in your posts, which is just as well as I emailed a link to the Idaho CPS as I wonder how transparent you are actually being with them. If you could get prosecuted for freedom of speech do you really think your cps and police are going to travel to the UK to prosecute me for calling you out on your drug addiction? Erm no!
Please don’t send me your love, send it to all of your kids. Look at healing yourselves before you try to work on another families problems. And as for your parenting advice, I would rather take parenting advice from a chimpanzee thank you very much!
You then sent me another message:
I find it interesting your logo is a a completely improper view of how thin and and exact a woman’s body should look but to be playing with a voo doo doll and a broken doll (or at least that’s what it looks like). I am just so confused from what you want from life or expect from people. Geneva does not know I am reaching out to do. She’s so full of hurt from what she did, anything you say just isn’t meaningful enough to affect her. She’s read the page and just doesn’t care because she hurt me so bad and even worse really hurt Coyote and Zelda when it didn’t have to happen. There is a core problem to your actions. There is a core solution. Something happened to you that you must feel that you can treat others in a violent way. Please let me in on your hurt I promise I can help you. I will not tell a soul 😞 I cry when I imagine what must have happen to you to make you this way 😞
My logo is a cartoon. When choosing it out I did not think about how thin she looked, I thought she looked cool. You see, I am comfortable enough with my own body that I don’t need to judge cartoons on how fat or thin they are and I realise that ALL women are beautiful, even if they have a tiny waist and huge boobs!
You say Geneva is so full of hurt over what she did, and that she knows she has hurt you, are you still seriously trying to blame her for this? You failed her when she needed you the most, she had been having a ‘manic episode’ and you tried to keep up with her new found energy by drinking and smoking pot. The blame here lies completely at your door Ben. I actually feel very sorry for Geneva, for Geneva you can say this is a very misguided mistake. But I can’t say the same for you. Do you allow Geneva to make her own choices or do you control her life for her?
Again I repeat that there is no hurt in my soul, unless you can count a ruined living room carpet as hurt in my soul… But no, I am a generally happy person, I have a beautiful child, an amazing partner who works hard to allow me to be a full time mum to our boy and to continue studying, a lovely home, I’m very close to my family, I have great friends… I don’t know what it is you think I am lacking. If having a ‘normal’ opinion about illegal drug use means I must be suffering some great pain deep down then so be it.
And aside from all of that I’ve had a few messages saying that you have, several times, shamelessly plugged your new business on the love coyote and zelda page. I even commented on this but my comment was very swiftly removed.
I had one message sent to me that pointed out that there was a post saying that today had been a beautiful day. How can your days be beautiful when your children are in care?
The one message I have had sent to me repeatedly, I mean at east 3o times, has been, why did they choose to broadcast this all over the internet? Why did you want to air your dirty laundry online? Is this for popularity? Is it to boost your business? Some people have even gone as fas as messaging me and saying that they don’t believe that any of it has actually happened and you were just trying to scam people out of money…
I very firmly believe that there is more to this story than occasional pot smoking. I urge you to get the help that you so desperately need otherwise this children will be away form you for a very long time, and ultimately, everybody would love to see them back with their parents in a SAFE environment.
I look forward to your response.
Laura
To all of the other messages I have received. I appreciate you taking time to message me. I will not publish anything that is overly offensive, whether aimed at myself or Ben and Geneva, this is still a family blog. If you would like to chat to me direct please feel free to email me on 4partsofthe1@gmail.com and I will respond to you as quickly as possible.
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